The PAST is history, our FUTURE a mystery,
but NOW is a "gift" and that's why it's called the
"present".
We miss them. They're not with us anymore
and it hurts. Sometimes a little but most times, a lot.
A photo, a word, a birthday, or an anniversary brings it
all back. Gone are the faces we loved so dear, silent the
voices we long to hear. In life we loved them dearly and
now we do the same. They would not want us to be sad.
Try to remember them in good times and for all the positive
ways they affected us. Let's celebrate their lives so that
someday a fond memory will bring a smile instead of a tear
...
Birth is a beginning and life a journey where we learn
from our yesterdays, live for our todays, and hope for better
tomorrows. Hope; such a small word with grand expectations. We
live in hope, hope for answers, get our hopes up, hope for
the best, and have high hopes. Personal or group centered, hope
is feeling that the feeling you now have is not permanent.
But hope is not a guide. It is having faith in yourself
with a desire for things to get better. And things WILL
get better because HOPE SPRINGS ETERNAL ! I hope so ...
Grief has no equal. Emotion is either laid bare or hidden
from others. Friends and family mean well, but unless they've
been where we are they have no clue. Sympathy is well intentioned
but temporary. Mind, body, and soul ? Well, our defenses are down,
our resistance is low, and our emotions are raw. The comfort
zone that was a "given" when we were O.K. is still
out there if we just look in the right place. When you're
ready, go with what you know. Find a comfortable space and
zone-in, not out. Act accordingly ...
You are not alone. We all grieve in different ways and deal
with it on our own terms. Acceptance is a positive step
towards normalcy. Remembering good times helps us to cope. Reaching
out to others in need helps with our healing process. And
it IS a process. Time heals, but never totally. Push PLAY,
not REWIND. You are not alone ...
This is life as we live it and NOT a dress rehearsal.
Let's make it count for all the right reasons. Be true
to yourself. If it feels wrong, it IS wrong. Forget counting
to 10 and say a prayer instead. Family FIRST ! They're with
us the day we're born and more likely than not, they're
the only one's with us when we pass on. Be real, not
phony. Gather 'round positive people. Set the standard. Kiss your
parents, kiss your kids, be well ...